Warning: Possible triggers regarding child loss. Please do not read this if you feel this may harm you emotionally or mentally. January 3, 2022. Alexis at 21. I imagine taking her to have her first (legal) alcoholic drink, if she chose to do that. I imagine helping her to prepare to graduate college and move further along her path. I see her uncles and aunts, cousins, grandfamily, and extended family (bio and otherwise) living the kinds of lives I would want her to emulate. S